Women and Children First
This year, Andy talked me into going shopping on black Friday. I am not a real fan of large unorganized crowds, but I went. We went to Target, Kohls and Burlington in search of a coat for Boston. With no luck, which is another soap box. We were walking through Gurnee Mills Mall and I was getting more and more annoyed. People were rude and would walk right over you. We had forgotten our stroller and were using the huge store one that cost $5.
We had decided it was just time to leave. Boston was a mess, (cutting four teeth at once) had now missed a nap, and I was gonna lose it. As we went past the food court I told Andy we had better feed Boston before we get back on the road to Kenosha. He agreed. He got in line at TacoBell to fetch some refried beans. Randy and I began the hunt for a table. The entire place was totally packed. We walked all the way around and through the seating area. No available table. So we start back around still looking. Randy sees a family starting to get up and bee lines it over there to wait. We get there before they even stand up and just wait. Another guy had the same idea and was standing to the other side of us. I knew he wanted the table and wasn't about to get it. Andy was walking towards us with the food by this point. The family stood up and Randy and I immediately sat down. This 20 something punk kid with his sunglasses on backwards says, "I was here first". I said, "no you weren't, and my child needs to eat." He said it again. I said "I don't care if you were here first my baby needs to eat and I am taking this table." When he finally turned to leave he found Andy towering over him. I just thought, go ahead fight me for the table. The guy was obviously trying to find a table while someone else went after food. I am pretty sure Boston was done eating before he even got food and he could have had the table. He kept throwing glares at me as he walked around.
I couldn't believe it. Whatever happened to manners? He is an adult, he could wait to eat. Boston is 10 months, there is no waiting. I'm standing there crying child in arm and he is willing to take a table from me. I almost wished he would have said something else so I could have cracked him across the face and yelled DIDN'T YO MAMA TEACH YOU NO MANNERS?
I have discovered on my road through pregnancy and motherhood, that there are only manners during gestation. I never had to stand and wait, I never opened my own door. But the second you cut the cord all bets are off. As I stood in Gurnee Mills Mall while Andy ran to grab a present I couldn't see, I stood by a huge area of taken chairs. Boston wiggling out of my arms and fighting the huge stroller. Everyone sat and watched me while I looked pleadingly at their seats. Needless to say, I never got a chair. Never once as I fight the wind and a heavy door to push Boston's stroller into a store has someone offered to hold the door. They will however go around you to pull open the door next to you for themselves. I was starting to think that it was just me, until I starting comparing notes with other mothers with stroller aged children.
I do have to give credit to the one or two that have held a door for me. Thank you so much for your help.
The only thing that I can figure is that when you are pregnant it evokes the "Ooooo" emotion. But as soon as the baby is out in the open everyone is just annoyed by your little noisy brat that is in the way.
I will now and forever always open a door for strollers and offer my seat to a women (or man) with a wiggly child.
As a final note on the food court. We were leaving and Andy was a little ahead of us because Randy and I were picking up the mess. We had just taken one step away when Andy yells, save the table. Without question Randy and I stepped back and put our hands on it, while noticing two 20 something guys with food in there hand behind us. Andy then tells a couple with a huge stroller and a baby looking for a table to take ours. Randy and I didn't move until they got there. The two guys just watched and then wandered off. I wonder if they were mad or impressed by our kindness to a little family.